I love tired sex. I know, I know, so many people make excuses when they are exhausted. Headache, not tonight dear, the kids will hear, I haven’t shaved, didn’t shower, I ate too much, I don’t have on my makeup, I didn’t take my Viagra or any number of things. But the benefits of tired sex make skipping the extra twenty or thirty minutes of sleep worth it.
Tired sex isn’t the only sex I enjoy but when I’m exhausted the sex is just so much better. Your inhibitions are lowered when you’re exhausted. Your muscles aren’t as tight and you can relax into the positions. When you’re tired you just don’t care as much about things and you can let go, making more noise and trying newer, wilder positions.
Letting go of your inhibitions in sex an important experience in bonding with your mate. Allowing yourself to go with the flow when your exhausted will make your mate feel better about themselves.
Sometimes the stress is so much when your tired that having sex and relieving some of that stress makes such a huge difference in the way you feel. You’ll sleep better after having sex when you’re tired. The next morning you wake up more refreshed. Sex can be a great stress reliever, with the physical and emotional release, the bonding, and the release of endorphins. Making the decision to be in the mood when you’re tired helps to relieve stress and helps you to sleep.
Of course there can be some issues with having tired sex. One partner may not be able to achieve orgasm because of exhaustion. That’s okay as long as the non-orgasmic partner isn’t always the same person. Giving and receiving is key to making tired sex work. Both partners need to have the option of having an orgasm but not feel pressured into achieving orgasm every time you have tired sex.
Sadly too many men don’t even try to make sure their female partners achieve orgasm. Tired sex is the perfect time to whip out that vibrator. There are no excuses for leaving your partner wanting, especially if they are agreeing to tired sex.
Many women may pull that headache bit because they aren’t receiving a great orgasm during the quickies because their men just don’t know what to do and they falsely believe that a vibrator will ruin their woman. Learn how to excite your mate and give them pleasure. If you have to use a vibrator for a quick fix during tired sex that’s okay. It’s only fair that both partners receive benefits from sex.
Tired sex can be such a wonderful addition to your relationship. Make sure you have the tools you need. If you use condoms have plenty in your nightstand. Know where the lube is and have a vibrator ready.
Having those wonderful and blissful orgasmic moments when your so exhausted you can hardly keep your eyes open are sweet opportunities to make your relationship deeper and your love stronger.
About Sara York:
Sara York lives in the southern United States with her family and dogs. Sara loves romance that takes you to distant worlds where you could be a princess or a warrior. She enjoys reading about far away places, but writing erotic romance is her passion.
Sara York writes erotic scifi romance that takes place on sex planets where pleasure is the mainstay. With pleasure planets and deserted planets anything can happen. It is erotic fiction! Writing M/M, gay romances is new to Sara York, but the passion and freedom of expression in the gay world is refreshing. Sara also writes menage a trois and cougar stories. Take the passion of two and ramping it up to the passion of three. Sara’s favorite vacation would be to spend the day at the beach while reading or writing a good book. I love beach reads! You can find Sara York Ebooks at Amazon or other ebook retailers.
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1 comment:
That is so absolutely fascinating that you talked about this. One of my well-hidden secrets is that I, too, love 'tired sex'. I always have! And I never really realized WHY I found it so much more sensual...but your thoughts sound plausible, and I agree.
Early morning sex, too, before I can wake up completely. Oh, my.
But it IS more sensual, I think, and it leaves such a satisfied, cozy laziness about you afterward. And rest is so good.
Very interesting post!
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