You Don’t Look Like an Erotic Author
There’s a certain type of person who, no matter how kind and wonderful you are, will think you’re the most hideous person on the planet when they find out you write erotic romance. Many erotic authors have encountered just such a person and have been made to feel worthless, dirty, and a pervert—or all three and then some.
“But…but…you don’t look like an erotic author!”
What am I supposed to look like?
What I’ve found is there’s a myth surrounding the genre. If you write erotica, you must either be sex mad, run around your house in a corset, buy sex toys over groceries, and look like a sex kitten. Oh, and you simply must swing from the chandeliers. As many of you know, this isn’t the case. You don’t have to be supermodel thin, supermodel gorgeous, you just have to be you to think about or write about sex. Besides, I can become the gorgeous women in my books if I write about someone like that, even if it’s only in my head.
The various reactions I had pre-Fifty Shades left a lot to be desired. I kept what I did to myself, but if I was pushed, I told them I was a writer and that I had horror novels to prove it. I did too, because I started off in mainstream. But me telling them that was like I was ashamed of myself—yet it wasn’t that at all. I knew what people would think if I told them the truth. I knew what people would do and say. And one day I got sick of hiding, so I admitted what I wrote. As predicted, I got funny looks. People avoided me. I’m sure they must have thought I was a sexual deviant that must be kept away from their husbands and children at all costs. After Fifty Shades, attitudes changed. Suddenly it was okay for me to be an erotic author. Cool. Accepted. The done thing. And I didn’t have to look like Cindy Crawford either. Bonus!
But the reality is I am not supermodel thin, I’m not supermodel gorgeous, I don’t buy sex toys over groceries, swing from chandeliers, or any of the other things I mentioned. I’m just a woman who sits at her computer and writes stories that just so happen to have sex in them.
Imagine, though…if no one knew what I looked like and read my books, enjoyed them, it brings up this question: Isn’t it the mind that is sexy then, rather than what the person looks like? The imagination is a wonderful thing—and you don’t have to be pretty to be able to spin a great, sexy yarn. So for all those people out there who don’t think they look right—who cares? Write, write, write!
I wanted Master Stephen. The thing was, would he want me?
I’d been visiting Marshall Cottage for a while, watching a certain Dom who never seemed to have a sub of his own. He borrowed other people’s, giving them a slap here, a nipple tweak there, seemingly confident and comfortable with himself. But I was shocked to find he wasn’t any of those things—until he took control as a Master.
I wanted him as mine. Would he agree to dominate me? Give me the pain I desired? I aimed to make that happen and couldn’t wait to see how things played out. I’d observed him for long enough. It was time to step up and take what I wanted—and every beautiful bite of pain he was willing to dish out.
Would he also give me the love I craved? A permanent relationship where we shared everything? A girl could hope, couldn’t she?
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Author Bio for Natalie Dae: Natalie Dae writes mainly BDSM erotica. She loves a Dom/sub relationship and is fascinated by how it all works. The trust issue is the best thing about it for her, so creating characters who have to adopt trust is one of her priorities. “Watching my characters bloom under tuition is such a treat,” she says. “I find it such a privilege to be able to write about something that makes me learn something new with every book.”
She lives with her husband and children in an English village and spends her spare time reading—always reading!—and her phone, complete with Kindle app, is never far away. “I can't imagine not reading or writing,” she says. “It's a part of who I am. Without it I'd be more than a bit lost.”
Natalie has many more BDSM tales swiming around in her head, so her workload for the future is very full. “What better way to spend a weekend than writing?” she says. “Saturdays are my main writing days, so I get up, open up a work in progress and rarely leave the desk. Unless I really have to!”