You Don’t Look Like an Erotic Author
There’s a
certain type of person who, no matter how kind and wonderful you are, will think
you’re the most hideous person on the planet when they find out you write
erotic romance. Many erotic authors have encountered just such a person and
have been made to feel worthless, dirty, and a pervert—or all three and then
some.
“But…but…you
don’t look like an erotic author!”
What am I supposed to look like?
What I’ve found
is there’s a myth surrounding the genre. If you write erotica, you must either
be sex mad, run around your house in a corset, buy sex toys over groceries, and
look like a sex kitten. Oh, and you simply must swing from the chandeliers. As
many of you know, this isn’t the case. You don’t have to be supermodel thin,
supermodel gorgeous, you just have to be you
to think about or write about sex. Besides, I can become the gorgeous women in
my books if I write about someone like that, even if it’s only in my head.
The various
reactions I had pre-Fifty Shades left
a lot to be desired. I kept what I did to myself, but if I was pushed, I told
them I was a writer and that I had horror novels to prove it. I did too,
because I started off in mainstream. But me telling them that was like I was
ashamed of myself—yet it wasn’t that at all. I knew what people would think if
I told them the truth. I knew what people would do and say. And one day I got
sick of hiding, so I admitted what I wrote. As predicted, I got funny looks.
People avoided me. I’m sure they must have thought I was a sexual deviant that
must be kept away from their husbands and children at all costs. After Fifty Shades, attitudes changed.
Suddenly it was okay for me to be an erotic author. Cool. Accepted. The done thing.
And I didn’t have to look like Cindy Crawford either. Bonus!
But the reality
is I am not supermodel thin, I’m not supermodel gorgeous, I don’t buy sex toys
over groceries, swing from chandeliers, or any of the other things I mentioned.
I’m just a woman who sits at her computer and writes stories that just so
happen to have sex in them.
Imagine,
though…if no one knew what I looked like and read my books, enjoyed them, it
brings up this question: Isn’t it the mind that is sexy then, rather than what
the person looks like? The imagination is a wonderful thing—and you don’t have
to be pretty to be able to spin a great, sexy yarn. So for all those people out
there who don’t think they look right—who cares? Write, write, write!
Blurb for Master
Stephen, book four in the Marshall Cottage
series:
I wanted Master Stephen. The thing was, would he
want me?
I’d been
visiting Marshall Cottage for a while, watching a certain Dom who never seemed
to have a sub of his own. He borrowed other people’s, giving them a slap here,
a nipple tweak there, seemingly confident and comfortable with himself. But I
was shocked to find he wasn’t any of those things—until he took control as a
Master.
I wanted him as
mine. Would he agree to dominate me? Give me the pain I desired? I aimed to
make that happen and couldn’t wait to see how things played out. I’d observed
him for long enough. It was time to step up and take what I wanted—and every
beautiful bite of pain he was willing to dish out.
Would he also
give me the love I craved? A permanent relationship where we shared everything?
A girl could hope, couldn’t she?
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Author Bio for Natalie Dae: Natalie Dae
writes mainly BDSM erotica. She loves a Dom/sub relationship and is fascinated
by how it all works. The trust issue is the best thing about it for her, so
creating characters who have to adopt trust is one of her priorities. “Watching
my characters bloom under tuition is such a treat,” she says. “I find it such a
privilege to be able to write about something that makes me learn something new
with every book.”
She lives with
her husband and children in an English village and spends her spare time
reading—always reading!—and her phone, complete with Kindle app, is never far
away. “I can't imagine not reading or writing,” she says. “It's a part of who I
am. Without it I'd be more than a bit lost.”
Natalie has many
more BDSM tales swiming around in her head, so her workload for the future is
very full. “What better way to spend a weekend than writing?” she says.
“Saturdays are my main writing days, so I get up, open up a work in progress
and rarely leave the desk. Unless I really have to!”
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