The Man Who Inspires Me—Every Day—to Write Romance
A Guest Post by Rick R. Reed
Why write
romance? I get asked this question a lot and the answer lies in the little
story, I’ll tell you below. It’s a story about finding one’s own happy
ending—and how, today, even two men in love can end up Legally Wed.
My husband Bruce and I were having dinner at a little French
bistro in the Capitol Hill neighborhood of Seattle on my birthday last year
and, as the wine flowed, we talked. He told me how content he was with his life
and that, really, there was nothing else he could wish for. I felt the same
way. It's nice when you're on the same page. He said we had something special
and that one word summed up what we had. I'll get to that word
later.
But it wasn't easy getting to this page in the book of our lives.
And thinking about Bruce and me has made me think about my other special love,
and that's writing. If any of you out there have followed my career at all,
you'll know that, lately, my stories have plotted out the course of love just
as much as they have the build-up of suspense or horrifying revelations. I can
proudly say I am now just as much a romance writer as I am a horror or dark
suspense writer.
You may wonder why my writing has slipped off in this new
direction. I certainly have. And I think it has a lot to do with Bruce. See,
we're happy. We're content. We're settled and in a love that only continues to
grow with the passage of time.
I don't know if this is a leap of logic that makes sense but I
think that I am more drawn to writing stories that map out the connections made
by the human heart these days because I am not expending as much energy seeking
out that connection in my own personal life. Now that I have found my one true
love, my soul mate, I can open up and write more freely about what draws people
together and what keeps them apart. I find those connections fascinating and I
don't believe I could write about them objectively until after I
had found, after much searching, a relationship that would work for me, one
that would nurture and sustain.
Before Bruce, there was a marriage to a woman and a child. Both of
those were—and still are—wonderful in their own ways. But trying to live a life
that was not my own was not only emotionally exhausting, it was dangerous in
many ways. With a lot of heartache, I had to let that dream, which really was
never for me, go. I came out in my early thirties, in a world where gay
marriage was not really even being discussed yet and the specter of AIDS loomed
large. It was not necessarily a good time for a gay man to be experiencing the
world and finding himself. But then, when is it ever a good time? But my point is I went through a lot of searching,
a lot of experimenting, a lot of bad choices, always in search of love, and
always coming up empty-handed.
A lot of those disappointments occurred because the real love I
needed—the love of myself—I had yet to discover. I look at my thirties as my true
adolescence, with its attendant growing pains.
It wasn't until I was 43 that I met Bruce. Gone were the hopes
that I'd meet a special man in some bar or even a gay social group. The era of
the Internet was on us in a big way and I placed an ad with the headline,
"What's Your Story?" Bruce was one of several who responded, and the
only one with whom I connected. He sent me some pictures of himself. He said
things in his very first response to my ad that resonated.
I wrote back. He wrote back and we started a daily correspondence
that would last two weeks, two weeks before we even laid eyes on one another,
even though we lived less than two miles away from the other. We began to get
to know each other and we both liked what we saw, what we read in our lines to
each other, and what was between them. We had both reached a stage where we
were ready for the other. Timing is everything.
We met in person and it was magic.
I won't say we didn't have some bumps in the road, though, getting
to where we are today. Nothing really good ever comes easily. But Bruce and I
were always willing to talk--whether it was face to face or through e-mails
(and now texts and Facebook updates!). The line of communication has always
been open and I think that's what's made the difference with us.
It's also made it possible for me to be able to sit back and be
more objective about writing romance because finally, at age 55, I finally,
finally, have a handle on what works and what doesn't. Until I had that key, I
honestly believe I couldn't have written convincingly or effectively about
romantic love.
So you can expect two things from me—one, that I will always be in
love with Bruce and two, that you will enjoy many more stories of love and
romance between two men—because of Bruce and what he gave to me.
Oh, and that one word I alluded to above? The one Bruce used when
he said it summed up what we had?
That word was family.
Rick R. Reed Biography
Rick R. Reed is all about exploring the romantic entanglements of gay men in contemporary, realistic settings. While his stories often contain elements of suspense, mystery and the paranormal, his focus ultimately returns to the power of love. He is the author of dozens of published novels, novellas, and short stories. He is a three-time EPIC eBook Award winner (for Caregiver, Orientation and The Blue Moon Cafe). Lambda Literary Review has called him, "a writer that doesn't disappoint." Rick lives in Seattle with his husband and a very spoiled Boston terrier. He is forever "at work on another novel."
Rick R. Reed is all about exploring the romantic entanglements of gay men in contemporary, realistic settings. While his stories often contain elements of suspense, mystery and the paranormal, his focus ultimately returns to the power of love. He is the author of dozens of published novels, novellas, and short stories. He is a three-time EPIC eBook Award winner (for Caregiver, Orientation and The Blue Moon Cafe). Lambda Literary Review has called him, "a writer that doesn't disappoint." Rick lives in Seattle with his husband and a very spoiled Boston terrier. He is forever "at work on another novel."
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Legally Wed Blurb (Dreamspinner
Press/2014/Contemporary Romance)
Love comes along when you least expect it. That’s what Duncan Taylor’s sister, Scout, tells him. Scout has everything Duncan wants—a happy life with a wonderful husband. Now that Seattle has made gay marriage legal, Duncan knows he can have the same thing. But when he proposes to his boyfriend Tucker, he doesn’t get the answer he hoped for. Tucker’s refusal is another misstep in a long line of failed romances. Despairing, Duncan thinks of all the loving unions in his life—and how every one of them is straight. Maybe he could be happy, if not sexually compatible, with a woman. When zany, gay-man-loving Marilyn Samples waltzes into his life, he thinks he may have found his answer.
Determined
to settle, Duncan forgets his sister’s wisdom about love and begins planning a
wedding with Marilyn. But life throws Duncan a curveball. When he meets wedding
planner Peter Dalrymple, unexpected sparks ignite. Neither man knows how long
he can resist his powerful attraction to the other. For sure, there’s a wedding
in the future. But whose?
Legally Wed Excerpt
Same-sex
marriage had just become legal in Washington State and Duncan Taylor didn’t
plan on wasting any time. He had been dating Tucker McBride for more than three
years and, ever since the possibility of marriage had become more than just a
pipe dream, it was all Duncan could think of. He had thought of it as he gazed
out the windows of his houseboat on Lake Union, on days both sunny and gray
(since it was late autumn, there were a lot more of the latter); he had thought
of it as he stood before his classroom of fourth graders at Cascade Elementary
School. He had thought of it when he woke up in the morning and before he fell
asleep at night.
For
Duncan, marriage was the peak, the happy ending, the icing on the cake, the
culmination of one’s hearts desire, a commitment of a lifetime, the joining of
two souls. For Duncan, it was landing among the stars.
And for
Duncan, who would turn 38 on his next birthday, it was also something he had
never dared dream would be possible for him.
And now,
too excited to sleep, he was thinking about it—hard—once again. It was just
past midnight on December 6, 2012 and the local TV news had pre-empted its
regular programming to take viewers live to Seattle City Hall, where couples
were forming a serpentine line to be among the first in the state to be issued
their marriage licenses—couples who had also for far too long believed this
right would be one they would never be afforded. Many clung close together to
ward off the chill, but Duncan knew their reasons for canoodling went far
deeper than that.
The mood,
in spite of the darkness pressing in all around, was festive. There was a group
serenading the couples in line, singing “Going to the Chapel.” Champagne corks
popped in the background. Laughter.
Duncan
couldn’t keep the smile off his face as he watched all the male-male and
female-female couples in the line, their mood of jubilation, of love, of
triumph traveling through to him even here on his houseboat two or three miles
north of downtown. Duncan wiped tears from his eyes as he saw not only the
couples but also all the supporters, city workers, and volunteers who had
crowded together outside City Hall to wish the new couples well, to share in
the happiness of the historic moment.
And then
Duncan couldn’t help it, he fell into all-out blubbers as the first couple to
get their license emerged from City Hall. 85-year-old Pete-e Peterson and her
partner and soon-to-be-wife, Jane Abbott Lighty, were all smiles when a
reporter asked them how they felt.
“We
waited a long time. We’ve been together 35 years, never thinking we’d get a
legal marriage. Now I feel so joyous I can hardly stand it,” Pete-e said.
It was
such a special moment and it was all Duncan could do not to pick up the phone
and call Tucker and casually say something like, “Hey honey, you want to get
married?”
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10 comments:
Knowing you and Bruce and how he inspired you to write this story. I see how the love for your soul mate inspired you to write a wonderful story. I can't wait to read it. It might give me a glimpse into you two sweethearts a little more.
Love
Monique
Thanks for having me into your little nook, Dawn, and letting me have my say. You're a gem.
Rick: I must confess that while reading your post you brought tears to my eyes. Why? Because in all my years of longing, searching, and being dissatisfied, all had to do with pretty much the same thing you spoke of: love of self. I think much of it stems from the lack of positive role models. I know it sounds trite but men like us, who came of age into such a dark and horrifying time period, lost the previous generation. We had to find our own paths, stumbling in the dark while trying to find the light that would illuminate the answers that already existed within us.
I'm so glad you have found love and happiness. Most of all, I'm glad you found peace with yourself. Funny how takes so long to get to that point, isn't it? But I suppose it makes us appreciate our lives all the more, thus allowing magic to enter our lives and fill us with awe with every dawning day beside the men we love.
Johnny Miles
Thank you, Rick, for sharing this tribute to your beautiful relationship. I needed tissues by the end, but they were happy tears. It's just lovely that you and Bruce have found your true and lasting love.
You ask what inspires to read romance (m/m romance), well I'm going to be complete honest - curiosity. As a kid it was war stories, as a young adult m/f. Being raised in New Orleans, I had no problem with my 'gay' friends, they were just my friends. When m/m stories came along I got caught up in the genre (hype). There is something different about the connection in a m/m romance than an m/f romance, I really don't have it down yet. The best I can come up with is it's more honest and less games. You know I was hooked on your horror/suspense but it did take me a couple stories to accept the romance side of you. Now, I adore it. I'm so happy you and Bruce are together. There's a more peaceful look in your eyes and face that wasn't there before you and Bruce could legally wed.
ejp5475@gmail.com
What inspires me to read any and all books is the journey in which each book takes me, no one inspires me, the written word within the pages inspires me to keep going and to experience the up and down each author gives me.
Cinders
Crozzy67@nctv.com
I read my first M/M romance to try and get a better understanding of the Gay Culture. A lot of events were happening around us, son coming out gay ,the Minnesota Marriage Amendment and the celebration of the Marriage Equality passing!!!! why have I continued reading M/M exclusively?
The writers and the community !!!!
My first real foray into M/M was Travis by Nicole Edwards ...I found that the scenes between the 2 men was wayyyyy hotter than any of the M/F, M/F/M or M/M/F scenes and I've never looked back. It's almost painful to read my romance with any female body parts involved now.. O.o
oops...forgot my email
leetee2007@hotmail.com
For me, life is hard enough to deal with. I deal with stress at work and in relationships. I need that happy ending to help keep me grounded, even if it is a fictional one. Plus, it gives me hope while waiting for my own "one".
ashley.vanburen[at]gmail[dot]com
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